Frequently Asked Questions
Is this service legal?
- It is not illegal to pay for or sell sexual services in Britain (however, it is now illegal in Northern Ireland to pay for sexual services).
- Brothels are illegal in Britain. What constitutes a Brothel under the Law is more than one service provider working out of the same property. Even if it is not at the same time. So be aware, booking two service providers at once is technically illegal. So are two service providers working out of the same flat.
- It is illegal to profit from someone else’s prostitution but all our providers are Independent.
- It is ILLEGAL for professionals including support workers, care staff, social workers etc to refuse to support a client with disabilities to access a sexual service.
How do I know if the listed providers on here are legitimate?
They have applied to advertise on here through our screening process. To be on here they have evidenced their real identity and that they have previous experience of providing sexual services, either through their own website or on an existing adult services platform. They have also been asked about their personal and professional experiences of disability and how that might make them suitable for us.
It’s not fool-proof – but no unregulated industry is. You might get a bad haircut or a cruddy massage or your mechanic may rip you off. We request that any bad experience be reported back to us immediately so that we can take the appropriate action and potentially remove the provider from the site.
What about the risk of sexually transmitted infections (STI's)?
Professional providers of sexual services who have experience (which are requirements for advertising on this site) will get regular sexual health screenings.
We do not recommend you attempt to undertake unprotected intercourse and all providers on this site should decline you if you ask for this.
Some providers will perform Oral Without Protection (OWO) but this is at their discretion. Some STI’s can be passed on through unprotected Oral sex and this is undertaken at the clients request and the providers own discretion.
I want to book a provider, but can't do it myself - who can help me?
Anyone you choose or ask. Health and Social Care workers have a legal duty to support you with this. If the health/care worker you ask declines, you must speak to their line manager about this and they must find another worker who will help you. You could put in a complaint about the worker who has declined if you wish.
Alternatively, you could ask a friend or family member whom you trust.
I want to book a provider, but cannot leave my home - will they visit me?
As covered elsewhere in the ‘Making a booking’ section, this is down to the discretion of the provider. Most will say on their advert if and where they are able/willing to travel and where to – giving clear information about what additional costs may be incurred to do this.
Also, in the ‘Making a booking’ section is advice about what you need to consider if you are having a provider coming in to your home.
For information on providers visiting residential facilities, see the Help and Advice section for Health and Social Care Professionals.
Will the providers be accepting of my disability?
Providers are asked to tick a list of what disabilities/conditions they are happy to work with so check it out on their profile and see if yours are covered.
Generally speaking – anyone who is not accepting of people with disabilities wouldn’t apply to advertise on here so yes, they will not be discriminatory.
However due to the intimate nature of the job and personal issues/experiences of their own, some providers might not be happy to work with certain issues/conditions/disabilities.
I would not expect someone who has never seen a catheter or pubic catheter before to say that they know they would have no problem with this. Some providers might be fine with incontinence issues, some might not. Some might only offer in call’s at their location and there may be no wheelchair access etc.
My Care worker/parent/hospice is saying I cannot use these services
For healthcare professionals/care workers it is illegal NOT to support disabled people to enjoy the same pleasures as others enjoy in the privacy of their own homes (Equality Act 2010, Human Rights Act 1998).
Please see the information in Help and Advice about this.
I don’t want to access a full sexual service. What other options are available to me?
Don’t worry, there is a wide range of activites and experiences that you can access without having a full sexual service. Please see some examples of these below:
Some disabled people find the idea of a sex worker too overwhelming and choose a striptease artist instead. Note that if you get horny but are physically unable to masturbate, strippers will not make bodily contact to help you.
Watching striptease can be highly enjoyable, aspirational, and a turn on. You could contact a club and check if they have disabled access and toilets or if you want to, hire a stripper to perform for you in private. If there is no-one on our website who offers this service, contact a local striptease agent or a strip club to discuss the options. Both men and women can enjoy female and male strippers.
Professionals provide flirtation and stripping live online, to the clients’ wishes, so they can have virtual sex together while the client sits in the comfort of their own home. There are a multitude of webcam providers on a multitude of websites. We would recommend doing some research into reviewed providers or sites.
Phone Sex Operators
People skilled at turning clients on verbally until they reach orgasm. Good ones cut to the heart of their clients’ fantasies and take them on exaggerated erotic journeys in their head. Again, there are a multitude of service providers, take a look around the internet.
A professional Massage can help you to reclaim your body and help you learn to receive pleasure. This can be a life-changing experience for someone who has only received treatment or personal care or medical intervention. The Massage Therapist will keep it non sexual unless you have ordered a sexual massage (Sometimes referred to as a ‘Happy ending’) Do not approach Massage therapists asking for this, some Sex Workers are also trained in Massage and it is them you should approach. A sexual massage may end in orgasm but you do not touch the practitioner. A Tantric massage may or may not end in orgasm and will help you to learn to appreciate the pleasure of the here and now and enjoy your whole body.
- Self-development programmes that focus on all aspects of adult intimacy and relationships.
- Tantra is being totally present in each moment which means letting go of performance goals. This acts as a powerful antidote to our goal-oriented view of sexual activity. Tantric practices encourage us to celebrate our physical body and connect to our physical response so that we can expand our arousal. This allows us to stay in our pleasure for longer and experience altered states of consciousness.
- By letting go of the goals of erection, orgasm and intercourse we can be creative in our exploration of pleasure including the vast realm of sensual eroticism. For example, Tantric practice includes a structured sensual massage which is designed to encourage relaxation and to awaken the sensual response throughout the whole body. This allows for an expanded experience of pleasure which is not dependant on the genitals or breasts and includes primary, secondary and tertiary erogenous zones.
At the moment, Tantra is unregulated which means that it is important to find a reputable practitioner. Those practitioners listed on this website who offer Tantric services have had training.
This is often helpful for people who lack sensation in their genitals.
Sexological Bodywork and Psychosexual Somatic Practice
Both of these are focused on helping people overcome any blocks or trauma to their sexual expression and enjoyment. In both sexological bodywork and psychosexual somatic practice, the practitioners engage in one-way touch and remain clothed.
An exciting development is that there is now a governing body for all professionals offering bodywork (i.e. touch) as part of their service. https://www.the-asis.org/
There are many kinds of kinky sex and disabled people are just as likely to enjoy it. You may be reluctant to talk about your preferences to relatives and care professionals unless you feel comfortable that they won’t be judgemental.
Differing types of BDSM can include restraint, domination, pain, control, wanting obedience or to be obedient. Some Full Service Workers will offer aspects of this but if you really want to explore specific Kinks it is best to look for a professional Dominatrix or Submissive – some may offer services on our site or you may have to look elsewhere.
Body Image Therapy
There are different kinds of talking therapies that aim to make people feel more confident about their bodies, their appearance and attractiveness. Cognitive Behavioural Therapy is thought to be the most effective. Some of our Somatic Practitioners will also have Therapeutic qualifications that can help with this.