Benefits of Good Sex
We know the benefits that sexual services can bring to disabled people. They can help them:
- gain confidence after being teased, bullied, rejected, and left out, or after developing a condition or impairment which makes them feel insecure
- learn what sexual pleasures their bodies are capable of
- learn how to please a partner so they might more less likely to be accepted by a potential partner
- feel like a man or woman when they lose their virginity
- feel loved and cherished
- feel satisfied
- feel human by enjoying Intimacy – touch, tenderness, kissing and cuddling. This is especially true for people whose bodies have only been proded and operated on by doctors and a sex worker can help them reclaim their bodies.
- Experience less pain after sexual pleasure and orgasm.
Sex workers are also particularly beneficial to :-
◦ People may need support with dealing with pain, breathing difficulties, weakness, stiff joints, etc.
◦ People with short or weak arms may need help with sexual relief. They can be introduced to suitable gadgets and helped to experiment so that they learn to reach orgasm by self pleasuring / masturbating on their own.
◦ Deaf/blind and blind people sometimes need an opportunity to explore bodies and learn about body language and relationships.
◦ People with speech and hearing impairments may need support in exploring ways of communicating sexually.
◦ People with extreme fear of rejection may need to practice approaching potential partners, gain more confidence, and experience acceptance.
◦ Socially and sexually phobic people can be introduced to things they fear, gently and slowly, and taught how to deal with their condition.
◦ People with congenital dislocation of the hip and with cerebral palsy can learn about relaxation techniques and other ways to spread their legs and enjoy intercourse without pain.
◦ People with Autism and Aspergers Syndrome may need to learn how to read the subtle signals of socialising and erotic flirtation, and overcome the difficulties when they fail to read them.
◦ People with learning disabilities may need to learn about sexual pleasures, techniques and appropriate interactions.
People whose bodies have changed might need to learn about their current sexual stamina and capacity
People who face early death may want to ensure they enjoy themselves as much as possible while still living
People with mental health issues might need practice at social and intimate interaction
A man with erectile dysfunction might want to practice injecting his penis in order to get hard, especially if he is blind. Or they may prefer to learn how to enjoy sex without an erection
A person with spinal injury who has lost their ability to reach orgasm might want to learn about other forms of sexual pleasure and reaching orgasm by breathing techniques or by the stimularion unexplored erogenous zones
A transsexual man might want to practice using his neophallus
A prostate cancer survivor who needed to learn a new approach to sex
Many conditions make it difficult to start a relationship and enjoy sex:- people with post traumatic stress disorder, ostomies, strokes, amputation, Gilles de la Tourette Syndrome, stammering, genital amputation, eczema, epilepsy, spinal injury, MS, restricted growth ….. the list is endless.
Disabled people say that having lots of orgasms lessens the pain they experience due to their condition.
The importance of sexual expression for everyone has been best outlined by the American white paper The Health Benefits of Sexual Expression published by the Planned Parenthood Federation of America. It outlines 25 reasons why sexual expression is important :
- reduction in heart disease and strokes
- decrease in breast cancer due to oxytocin levels rising
- reduction in prostate cancer
- higher immunity levels
- better sleep patterns
- increased youthfulness
- better fitness
- fewer incidents of endometriosis
- better fertility rates
- more regular menstrual cycles
- relief from menstrual cramps
- safer pregnancies
- ability to carry on having sex for longer, with improved sexual satisfaction and fewer problems of erectile dysfunction
- fewer migraines
- better emotional heath
- fewer psychological illnesses
- less depression and are reduced likelihood of attempts to commit suicide
- reduced likelihood of being violent
- reduced likelihood of getting stressed
- higher self esteem
- more enjoyment of intimacy
- social health in that they bond more easily with partners and have better relationship satisfaction
- the association of their sexuality with spirituality benefits people’s commitment to each other.
We hope this convinces those who once doubted!